“Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you.”– Matthew 7:6
The Bible teaches us that we should forgive “seventy times seven times” (Matthew 18:21-22) and that we should “pray for our enemies” (Matthew 5:44). By doing this we will “heap burning coals on their heads” (Romans 12:20).
This has to be the greatest advice of all time.
I mean, what from the Bible isn’t pure gold?
But seriously, even if forgiving others doesn’t encourage them to calm down, even in the slightest, through the forgiveness our own hearts, we are able to grow in character, because;
By forgiving others, we receive the undeserving grace of God.
Matthew 6:14-15 states that if we have the humility to forgive others, God will in-turn forgive all of our transgressions.
It’s a simple fact that people will continuously hurt us. That’s life. Human nature. Unfortunately, there’s no way around it. It’s up to us to decide whether we want to stick around or walk away.
WE DON’T HAVE TO DEAL WITH BEING MISTREATED BUT REGARDLESS;
WE MUST FORGIVE OTHERS.
If we know that through our forgiveness we have been forgiven by the King of Kings, that should be sufficient enough.
Point. Blank. I’m good.
Through our forgiveness towards others, we are able to heal ourselves:
As if receiving the grace of God wasn’t enough, we find the ability to heal our own hearts through the empathy we give towards others.
The inability to forgive creates a sense of bitterness, frustration, anger and even sorrow within us that can only be appeased through letting go of the pain that others have caused within us.
Bitterness towards others is a mere reflection of our own egos attacking wounds that lie within, triggered by the actions of other people.
Instead of facing our demons and coming to a place of wholeness and rest within our hearts, we hold on to the pain, blaming others for shining light upon our darkest corners.
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When we are able to heal all the ripped scars and burning wounds within, we can love ourselves on a level that we deserve. A level that even the darkest of nights and fiercest of battles can never take away.
This comes from a place of not allowing the things people say or do affect us, because we choose not to rely on the opinion or validation of others, but rather the peace found deep within ourselves and the unfailing love of God.
However, there is a huge difference between forgiving others and constantly putting ourselves in a position that can, will and does crush us spiritually.
As humans, we constantly seek in others the things that we’re trying to find within ourselves. The spiritual fruit that only God can provide through our own spiritual, emotional and psychological healing.
We constantly allow ourselves to go through situations or be treated in ways we don’t deserve because we don’t understand our true value through Christ.
Searching for things such as; validation, confidence, love, peace, companionship and wholeness within the approval of others. We believe that we are who people say we are but baby-girl, that just aint true.
Forgive others, yes, always, for that’s a true sign of spiritual maturity.
Jesus forgave the unforgivable, but he also walked away from those who didn’t spiritually feed him.
In Mark 3:31-35 , just after Jesus was mocked and ridiculed BY HIS OWN FAMILY, they came to visit him and he denied them, stating, “Here are my mothers and my brothers! Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.”
JESUS WALKED AWAY FROM HIS OWN FAMILY!
Does it mean he stopped loving them? No.
Does it mean he was bitter and hateful towards them? No.
Does it mean that he never forgave them? No.
It means that he was strong enough to say, “Hey, I love you, however, you’re not good for my mental, emotional and above all else, spiritual well-being so I choose to be around those who are.”
He chose his love for God and his divine will over anyone. He wasn’t about to corrupt that through the energy of others.
So, my love, when are you going to stop believing that forgiveness and toxicity must coexist?
You can forgive others but not let them walk all over you. Forgive but don’t let them mistreat you. Forgive but don’t let their morals keep you from your own. Forgive but don’t their insecurities become yours.
You’re so much better than that. When are you going to believe it?
WE ARE GOD’S CHILDREN.
KINGS AND QUEENS.
Since when does a Queen put up with disrespect? Never, that’s when. You will be imprisoned or beheaded or who knows what the heck else.
(Disclaimer: Don't behead anyone for disrespecting you, just walk away. Okay? Movin' on.)
Anyways, it’s time to stop throwing your pearls to the pigs baby!
It’s time for you to step into your majesty and know that you are so much better than that.
You’re glorious darlin’!
There is nobody, I repeat, NOBODY out there who is worth taking your sanity, your peace of mind, your self-love, above all else, your value that you can ONLY get from God.
Stop putting your confidence in human beings who CLEARLY don’t have any themselves. That’s why they’re trying to steal yours.
Walk away my love. WALK. AWAY.
Don’t let anybody break what He’s trying to build.
YOU GOT THIS BECAUSE HE GOT YOU.
God bless and bless God. Yaweh-Yireh.